Marriage

So I read a blog today that talked about marriage. And I really loved the points..it is about two words..
1-Think Big (look at the big picture of life and marriage it is not all about you) I had to really think about this one LOL. I have to say that sometimes we are really selfish and just want what is important to us at the time. We forget that there is compromise and that we can talk it over and generally come to an agreement. I found this one especially funny because my dear husband who I ADORE can sometimes be selfish. He throws a little tantrum and I leave him alone and then he is fine...well I have to say that I am great at throwing little tantrums too LOL! I love you Brad.
2-Get Over (forgive again and again and again) This one really hit home for me. There have been many times in my life with Brad that we have practiced this. I think that forgiveness is an amazing thing..an even bigger thing is being able to forget. I am for sure not saying that this is an easy task, but it is totally worth it in the end.
3-Choose Battles (not everything is worth the fight) I really struggled with this for a long time because I am a control freak and a spoiled brat when we first got married. I wanted everything my way and I did not care how Brad felt. I have now realized that it does me no good to want everything my way. Why fight over stupid things like Brad putting his underware in the hamper in stead of right next to it in the bathroom (LMAO) or the fact that he turns his socks wrong side out when he takes them off and I have to turn them right side out, or even the fact that he washes all of his clothes together and then dries them (LOL)..I just to remember to thank him for atleast doing his laundry and taking off his dirty clothes in the bathroom. Having him gone all week long is really hard, and actually I miss doing his laundry!!!
4-Just Stop (get help if you need) WOW! This one is hard for me..I really hate asking for help I hate to think that Brad would think that I can not handle things on my own..I guess this is where you let foolish pride go out the door.
5-Shut Up (there is wisdom in knowing when to be quiet) I think that this one pretty much says it all. I need to remind myself that I do not need to have the last word (I totally get this from my mother) and just let it go..let it roll right off my shoulders and remember that I love that man with all my heart and sometimes, he is right and I am wrong, and other times I am right but he is still not wrong LOL!
6-Move On (let go of the past and live in the moment) When you have been with someone for as long as Brad and I have been together, these is going to be some painful memories without a doubt. I think that these moments have been what have made Brad and I into the strong couple that we are now! The have built our character and have really made us realize how much we care about each other. People make mistakes and we are not the ones to judge them, it is just like said above, we have to forgive over and over again. Move on does not just reflect on BIG things, we have to let go of even the littlest hurt.
7-Be Smart (Use Your Brain in Every Situation)
8-Common Sense Brad hates the way that I am a total blonde sometimes and I ask him the stupidest questions that if I really sat there for a moment, I could answer myself..maybe that is why he loves me so much LMAO!
9-Show Up (there is value in being together) This statement is soooo true! We love doing things as a family. We adore our children with all that we have, however, it is SOOOO IMPORTANT to spend one on one time together. Brad and I never use to have date nights, when we started, I was amazed at how much fun we could still have with eachother. It does not matter if we go to a movie, go shooting, or just go walk around a store together..the fact is that we have our total attention on each other and we are not chasing two little boys or comforting a little girl..in fact this just made me realize that Brad and I have not had a night out or even a moment alone in almost 4 months...hmmmmm Dear Mom Date Night??? PLEASE?? LOL!
10-Be Present (Engage your spouse when you are together) This one is HUGE for me. I have to know that Brad is listening to me when I am talking to him. Since we mostly talk on the phone 5 days a week, it is really frustrating to me when I am wanting to talk to him about my day and he has so much other stuff going on at his house in Wyoming to listen to me...and it goes the same on my end..once I get home from work with these three little ones all alone, I am so busy getting dinner and bed time going that by the time Brad and I talk, we are both exhausted and in bed and we do not take the time...

I have to say that I love being married and a mother. Even after almost 7 years, it doesnt get old. The laundry, the dishes, the house cleaning..the kids even with the tears and messes and stressful days and nights---I love it!! I would not have my life any other way. I am so blessed to be a mommy to these three wonderful kids and the wife to my best friend!!